At Capital Region Ceremonies, we are more than just wedding officiants. We’ve been in the wedding industry for a long time and have witnessed hundreds of couples from all walks of life uniting in marriage. Marriage often requires compromise, and in order to reach a compromise, tough discussions must be had. At Capital Region Ceremonies, we are happy to offer premarital coaching in addition to our services as your dedicated wedding officiant. Just a couple hours with Reverend Ron can help you and your partner peacefully discuss the most important things before you get married so they don’t cause a huge shock later down the road. To help you get started, we’ve listed just a few of the important things you need to talk about before tying the knot. If you’re having trouble discussing these, get in touch with your wedding officiant today and we’ll help you through it.

Kids, Timelines, And How To Raise Them

Whether or not to have children might be the most important thing to set straight before you get married, but there are other things to discuss than just creating babies. How will you discipline them? Does one partner believe it’s never okay to spank a child and another thinks that a little swat can make a child fall in line? Will you raise them to be a certain religion, and which one? Be sure to discuss a timeline for when to have children. If one partner wants children as soon as possible and the other wants to wait five years, this could cause potential issues.

Money, Debt, And Careers

Finances are one of the main reasons that couples fight. Financial woes can cause stress especially if two people cannot agree on how to spend their collective paychecks. Before you get married, decide whether or not you will have a joint bank account or if you want to keep your finances separate. Additionally, be open about your debt. If you have tens of thousands of dollars in student loan debt or credit card debt, tell your partner and decide how it will be paid off. Will they go 50/50 on your debt, or will they expect you to continue to pay it off on your own? Along these lines, discuss your careers. Would you pack up and move to a different state for the right job, and will your partner go with you? Going back to the first question, will one partner give up a career to raise the children, or will you use childcare services?

Pet Peeves, Deal Breakers, And Goals

Have you been suffering silently as your partner tailgates every person he drives behind? Do you hide your anger when your partner ignores you when she is playing video games? These little things are likely not going to lead to a breakup, but getting these little pet peeves out on the table now can avoid a big fight down the road. Also, discuss deal breakers and goals. If your partner is in the military and might one day be stationed overseas, are you willing to leave your family and move to a different country for an indefinite amount of time? Do you have a lifelong goal of owning your own business one day or going to the moon? If there is anything that could be a deal breaker if your partner does not support it or agree with it, you need to bring it up before you get married or risk it becoming a major heartbreak later on.

Learn More About Our Premarital Coaching Services!

When you choose us as your Albany wedding officiants, you can expect we’ll be with you every step of the way, including helping you have these tough discussions with your future spouse. Happy marriages are based on open communication and understanding, and we’d love to help you get there! Get in touch today!