When you are planning your wedding, you want to make sure your wedding officiant is someone who is going to mesh well with your needs and desires. To learn a little bit more about me, check out this handy wedding FAQ.
When did you start writing and performing weddings?
We have been the in the wedding business for over 13 years and have performed hundreds of wedding services for couples in the region; and beyond!
Why do you perform Weddings?
Its a passion to write and perform, that has been with me since college. I also take pride in demystifying the process of marriage, and calming couples for the transition into married life.
I feel closest to my partner when we watch GoT together. Do you perform Theme weddings?
Yes, we do. If you can dream it, I can write it. We have done Princess Bride, Science Fiction, and various Disney theme services. Ask me about a “Wedding in Four Acts.”
What is your service area?
Our Officiating practice is always expanding as more wonderful officiants join our team. By drawing a circle around Albany, NY, you can easily see the Berkshire, Vermont, Connecticut regions we cover.
Where and how were you ordained? Do you have a physical church or chapel?
I identify at Universalist Unitarian, I was physically Ordained by The Universal Brotherhood, in New Jersey, 14 years ago. Our indoor chapel is located in beautiful, historic, downtown Schenectady. Many of my other ministers have been ordained by other churches. The “Judge” received his authority, by virtue of NY Statute.
How do you work to personalize our ceremony?
We specialize in meaningful, personalized ceremony. We use an interview session and also incorporate written questionnaires. We want the perfect ceremony to represent your individual and joint personalities, quirks, beliefs, and relationship. Once I finish your first draft, you will receive an email for your approval; or to edit if you wish. Our mission is for your ceremony to be fantastic and are pleased to edit with you on the draft (three drafts), until you agree it’s “word for word” perfect.
Can you write and perform a ceremony for couples from different religious backgrounds? What can you do to assist us?
There are certain commonalities in most religions We use that to blend your religious traditions by honoring both. It always helps the families to bond, when they experience the new traditions, that their children are incorporating.
How about a fully religious ceremony, can you do that?
Every one of our wedding officiants are ordained, non-denominational ministers or Judge, and perform both religious and secular ceremonies.
I don’t want to mention (God, religion, anything spiritual, etc.) in my ceremony. Is that okay?
Absolutely, it is your wedding. I find that many non-practicing couples find a certain recharge while spending time in nature, with their significant other. Magic is present, as long as you have love. That being said, I have fond memories of Hindu, Moslem and other religious services that I have conducted. I consider myself a Multi-Cultural Non-Denominational (ND) Minister.
Should we have Pre-Marital Coaching?
It depends. Have you already had the “Four Fights that every couple has?” If you have, survived, and you are still getting married, then no. Otherwise, it is probably the best money you can spend and will make the first several years much easier. I like to say, two hours with me, can save you a whole lot of time and money later. Also available online.
Can we involve children in the ceremony?
Ring bearing and flower throwers are just the beginning. We can have rituals that involve the children, and special language to honor not just the children, but Mom, Dad, Grandmother, whoever is most important to you.
Do we have to have a Memorial?
The short answer is no. I really find it to be a touching moment for many and I can write words of light and love. We always follow it with a few seconds of silence, and an upbeat reading and your Love Story (if desired.)
We love our dogs, can they be involved?
They can be ring bearers, or carry in a beverage, for your wine ritual. We love dogs. (I have 3.)
Can you tell jokes?
Absolutely. Not only that, but I can edit lyrics from your favorite songs into readings. Let’s get creative together.
How long have you been performing same-sex weddings?
Yes! Love is love, and we have worked with LGBT couples all the time, and are thrilled to marry all couples who desire marriage. It’s in my code of ethics. (Ask other Officiants if they have one!)
We’re ready to book!
Not so fast…Call, email, or come in for a free interview. We can do that on Google Hangouts if you prefer. We offer printed or will send you an electronic contract. We will give you a couple of days to decide, or a free gift if you sign right after the interview! To save your date, a 50% retainer is required, and you’re all set! (Even though we are an affordable wedding venue and officiant, in special circumstances we can do monthly payments to ensure that money doesn’t prevent you from marrying the person you love.)
When is the final balance due?
Most couples like to pay several months before their wedding, but if you forget, I will send you an invoice one month prior.
How much does it cost to get married by you or your other wedding Officiants?
We have transparent pricing right on the website and believe we offer the best value in the market. For every couple who thinks they have found a less expensive minister, once they start adding up all the extra fees (others charge) that are already in our packages, it becomes clear.
Do you have transportation fees?
After 60 miles each way, so if you are getting in Lake George $0. Lake Placid is $45. For large services weddings and wedding outside of our service area, a nice hotel or lovely Airbnb may also be required. I am blessed; I have had couples who insisted that I write and perform their ceremonies, and have even flown me out!
When should I let you know if my wedding date or time has changed?
That would be immediately, right after you tell your fiancé and mom! If your preferred Officiant has been booked, we will do our best to make sure your wedding is covered, by our other fine Officiants,; or even helping you contract a competitor who we admire.
Do you perform rehearsals?
A rehearsal is included in Gold and Platinum packages. For a modest additional fee with your Silver Package. We happily offer all of our couples a complimentary guide to running your own rehearsal, which outlines steps that everyone can practice. I like to practice the readings with your speakers, at that time.
Do I book the rehearsal at the same time we choose you to Officiate?
Please do! We think rehearsals are important and take time to go over all the details with you, and the event manager, if possible. Usually, your Officiant will attend the rehearsal, unless they have another wedding at that time, in which case one of our other professional officiants will attend.
Do you have a policy about pictures during the ceremony?
We do, we yield to our couples. If you want an unplugged service, I will announce that. If not, I will say some kind words introducing the photographers, and ask your guests not to pop up immediately in front of them… We have seen those horror stories about some ministers stopping the wedding to criticize the photographer! All of our officiants work professionally with all of your vendors. Our Officiants also make a quick side exit, so they are not in your kiss photo!
My friend and/or college roommate has a ULC ordination and would like to marry us. What are the Legalities?
We are not lawyers, but the short answer is it depends. There are certain counties in NY and PA that will not accept that. If you ever decide to move to Tennessee, they will not honor that, in case of separation, etc. If they are properly ordained, you might be okay with that option. Keep in mind that public speaking is best left to the professionals. The local Clerks in NY State tear their hair out, when licenses are not filled out properly, or filed on time! That is why I get so many referrals. If you find yourself needing an officiant immediately, please call us NOW at 518-587-1468. We’ll do our best.
We got married at the courthouse, but we would like a full wedding in front of our friends and relatives. Do you do this?
This is called a “show wedding”, we do several couples each season, especially military couples where one partner was deployed and a wedding needed to happen quickly before they left.. Sometimes you didn’t have the money at the time, but you were so in love…We do need to see your marriage license, to verify the marriage. Some minor words are changed, but no one knows unless you tell them…
My Ex (Dad, Aunt) is Crazy!
Let me know, and we will put someone in charge of them. We will have a plan, and that will add to your comfort level. This is very important!
Anything lovely but intimate available?
We have a beautiful indoor chapel, Blessings, as well as a lovely outdoor chapel for elopements or small weddings. We can also suggest some local parks and such! Our service area is full of gorgeous scenery during any season of the year and we’d love to help you find the perfect location.
Would you like to attend the reception?
Usually not. This adds several hours to my Officiants days, and we would prefer to invest those hours in your Ceremony preparation and performance. It is always your choice whether to ask us, it is truly not required. If you so desire, send them an invitation to our address, and I will have them respond directly.
Do we tip the officiant?
Gratuities are graciously accepted, but not required.
Can we book you as our wedding Officiant?
If I’m available, but I can assure you my other staff is handpicked and trained by me. Please fill out the contact form on any page to check our availability for your wedding date, and we will get right back to you!
I have more questions, how do I contact you?
Text or Call us at 518-587-1468 or Email us at Ron@ido-idos.com and we will be pleased to answer all your questions. We look forward to talking to you! This is my full-time job. It’s another reassurance to you, our client, that someone responds to their inquiries!
What is a Life Cycle Celebrant?
Certified Life-Cycle Celebrants, spend a minimum of 6 months, in a college-level curriculum, learning the meaning of the ceremony, how to structure and personalize services, writing papers, and having vocal evaluations. We are the Gold standard of Officiants. I also teach Officiating for my alma mater.
Any Professional Organizations?
I am the regional director for AAWO, the American Association of Wedding Officiants since 2012.
I’m the Regional Director for the American Association of Wedding Officiants!